That being said, modern psychodynamic therapists are still among the most judicious about the use of self-disclosure, as they believe that it can compromise the transferential field of therapy. Those values are to be monitored so that they are not imposed. If someone tells you how they felt after reading a book, then you might feel a need to reciprocate and articulate how the book made you feel. Saludos desde Valencia, España, Annette Hi Janine, congrats for your excellent article. Sometimes, though, we have thoughts or feelings which are very near and dear to our hearts, or feelings or experiences that we are deeply embarrassed about. In therapy, the current or past events we reference and the themes and topics we pick up on or don't address can be telling. In treating and adolescents, total non-disclosure could seriously compromise necessary rapport between the client and therapist Gibson, 2012.
Successful self-disclosure hinges on a variety of factors, including the type of relationship people share, the setting in which this information is relayed, and the current level of intimacy shared by those involved. What are your thoughts about self-disclosure? What's Good for the Goose. For those with a history of bulimia nervosa, there is a high rate of comorbidity with alcohol and drug misuse, impulsivity, depression, social anxiety, accidents, and homicidal behavior. This is our selves trying to protect our self-esteem and ego, often simply trying to minimize the embarrassment. Psychotherapeutic relationship is somewhat different, because it is asymmetrical in that sense.
Gus and Lenore initially had come in asking for help with their differences over parenting their young son. It also hints that patients may be ambivalent about having a personal question answered. They know our humor, our values; they know our hearts. She's more real to me and much more relatable. While this insulates you from the embarrassment you felt in the short term, in the long term it may hurt your ability to talk about this or related important issues. Types of self-disclosure There are two broad types of self-disclosure used by counsellors and therapists.
Generally speaking, therapists tend to disclose less to more symptomatic clients. Whether you are at the early stages of a friendship, a working partnership, or a romantic affair, you will probably be more reticent about sharing your feelings, hopes, thoughts, dreams, fears, and memories. Robbie, a slight man in his fifties with receding hair and a warm, round face, makes a beeline for me before the workshop starts. For example, a staunchly atheistic client may choose to not share intense feelings of anger toward her devoutly Christian family members if she knows that her therapist is deeply religious. Apparently the therapist didn't know that when someone checks your profile on LinkedIn you get a notification! Patients who are curious but who do not need to hear the answer tend to let the matter drop. Why hold back from offering something of yourself when doing so can strengthen the human relationship between the two of you? Everything a therapist does or does not say is a disclosure, but not necessarily an inappropriate one. Clinical Social Work Journal, 22, 417-433.
Modern social networking systems eg, Facebook, MySpace exemplify intentional self-disclosure without a particular patient focus. Notably, however, Freud regularly engaged in self-disclosure with his clients and was known to share his own dreams and memories with them. Leanne's expertise covers everything from how the beauty myth impacts women's self-esteem, mental health and fitness. Ethical principles of psychologists and code of conduct: Including 2010 Amendments. I had a wonderful therapist who retired in September of last year. People who are naturally or reserved tend to take much longer to get to know other people, which is often influenced by their tendency to hold back on disclosing things about themselves.
Or posted something a little too personal on Facebook? That power transfers to the client who may be validated for the first time that their feelings matter and that their experiences and what remains are justified. She set her personal boundaries very early in our relationship, and when necessary reminded me of them. I would like to add a trauma therapy perspective. Clients are supposed to have a choice. Being aware of what our clients' stories evoke for us about our own lives keeps us engaged, even if we choose not to self-disclose. In order to build a deep and trusting relationship, some level of self-disclosure is necessary and the more intimate the relationship, the deeper this disclosure tends to be. Why do we feel a need to reciprocate in such situations? Disclosing such a history is relevant to the parents' evaluation of the psychotherapist's fitness and qualifications.
All self disclosures from a therapist do not have the same intent or the same impact. The role of therapist self-disclosure in psychotherapy: a qualitative review. For instance, Anita may already have felt that since Bill and Robbie were both male, they were implicitly allied. Given that each client is different, as is each counsellor and therapist — a rigid view is often unhelpful when it comes to the practice of self-disclosure. The tabu on self-disclosure is a holdover from early psychoanalysis, where it was believed that the clinician should be basically opaque, not betraying much in the way of personality, so that the process of transference could occur unimpeded.
I wanted to indicate it was normal to sometimes have thoughts about other women. But this self-disclosure entails more than how much you are willing to tell others about yourself; it is also a crucial building block of intimacy and absolutely vital to a wide variety of social relationships. Things were tense between him and his wife, Anita. In 30 years of training other therapists, I've found that my capacity to reveal relevant personal information in an appropriate, controlled way can have a powerful impact on how much trainees are willing to engage, stretch their learning, and take risks. Self-disclosure of the therapist is common but it is limited and usually for the benefit of the therapy and the client, not for personal gain. They hypothesized that the perceived helpfulness of therapist self-disclosure would enhance the therapeutic relationship, which in turn would promote patient self-disclosure, which would reduce shame, which would be associated with an improvement in symptoms.